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A Refresher On The Need for Consistency in Parenting

Parenting | LoveParentingLA.comSometimes as parents, there might be an event or a life changing circumstance that affects the way you relate to your children. Perhaps you recently went through a divorce. Or perhaps you lost one of your children in an accident. Or it could simply be that the day to day responsibilities of home and work somehow required putting the relationships you have with your children aside temporarily.

Regardless of the reason, it’s important to return to the basics of parenting from time to time. To refresh yourself on what’s necessary and important for facilitating healthy psychological and emotional development.

First and foremost, research indicates that parents need to provide consistent care to their children. And this begins from infancy. Studies show that an infant must develop a strong bond with at least one primary caregiver in order to appropriately develop socially and emotionally. In order for this bond to become secure between infant and caregiver, the following must happen:

  • The caregiver must be responsive and sensitive in the way that he or she responds to the infant.
  • The child must be able to consistently rely on the caregiver for soothing in times of stress.
  • The caregiver must remain a constant in the child’s life from 6 months to approximately 2 years of age.

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Co-Parenting Etiquette for LA Divorced Parents

Divorce | LoveParentingLA.comWhen there are children involved in a divorce, parental care for those children must continue despite the marital split. If individuals cannot agree on when and how their children will be cared for, it is sometimes agreed upon during the legal proceedings. For instance, a parent who is working full time may only be able to care for his or her children on the weekends and on holidays. Perhaps the other parent has the children during the week.

If you’re not involved in a legal situation with your partner but you have children together, likely you’re trying to figure out between the two of you how to meet the physical, emotional, and psychological needs of your children even through the divorce. Whether you’re in a legal situation or not, there are going to have to be conversations, communication, and contact with the other parent for the sake of the children. Knowing how to do that in a way that keeps the children’s best interest in mind is at the heart of a gentle divorce. Continue reading

The Risky Behaviors of Los Angeles Children and Where To Take Them If They Get Hurt

Children's Hospital | LoveParentingLA.comThe Center for Disease Control (CDC) is an organization that protects America from healthy, safety, and security threats. Among their many tasks and large-scale projects, they maintain research and health statistics on children. For instance, the Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System monitors six priority health-risk behaviors that play a role in the causes of death, disability, and injury in children and teens. Three of the six dangerous behaviors are listed below:

Behaviors that contribute to unintentional injuries and violence – According to the CDC, there are risky behaviors that lead to unintentional injury, such as riding a bicycle without wearing a helmet, not wearing a seatbelt when riding as a passenger in a car, riding in cars with drivers who had been drinking, and texting or emailing someone while driving a vehicle. The CDC also recognizes behaviors among older children and teens that specifically lead to violence such as carrying a weapon, carrying a gun specifically versus other weapons, being in a physical fight, experiencing being hit, slapped, or physically hurt intentionally by a boyfriend or girlfriend (dating violence), avoiding school because of its lack of safety, experiencing bullying, or considering and/or attempting suicide.

Unhealthy dietary behaviors – Dangerous behavior that leads to unhealthy diets include not eating the right amounts of fruit or drinking fruit juices, not eating any vegetables, not drinking milk, drinking sugar based drinks such as sodas, and not eating breakfast. Continue reading

Los Angeles Parents: Here’s How to Curb the Use of Marijuana In Your Children

Marijuana  | LoveParentingLA.comMarijuana is a popular drug in the state of California, particularly Los Angeles. According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA)’s February 2014 report of drug use in Los Angeles County, marijuana was reported as “the primary drug problem” with 27.2% of drug rehab treatment admissions for marijuana addiction or dependency. Plus, more than half (59%) of drug rehab treatment admissions were for children. Furthermore, marijuana was identified in 30.8% of drug reports analyzed in laboratories. Lastly, marijuana ranked second in the list of illicit drugs reported in the poison control system.

Children younger than 12 years old are experimenting with marijuana. According to the Journal of American Medical Association, 14 children under the age of 12 ended up in the hospital after taking in the edible form of the drug between 2009 and 2011.

Despite its reputation for being a safe and harmless drug, marijuana does in fact lead to danger, as noted with the hospitalizations above, as well as addiction. In fact, regular use of marijuana can create the same destructive lifestyle that comes with any dependency. Considering marijuana to be harmless, in a sense, makes it more dangerous. A child using the drug may not be able to make the connection between some of its ill effects on school, home life, and peer interactions. He or she might be looking for a quick high, a release of stress, but the effects of the drug have proven to lead to an addiction. Continue reading

Los Angeles Resources for your Athletic Child

Athletic Child | LoveParentingLA.comIf you are parents of a child who is heavily involved in sports, there are some cautions you might want to take on behalf of your children. As parents raising a family in Los Angeles, there are a variety of sports that your child might be involved in including swimming, surfing, basketball, football, or track. However, if the demands of being on a sports team is getting in the way of your child’s life at school or home, then you may want to know about the following resources.

For instance, not only are young athletes faced with academic stress but they may also feel the pressure to perform, to keep their bodies in shape, and to succeed in their chosen sport. To help children and teens with these demands, many universities, high schools, and community organizations provide academic and athletic support programs. For the most part, these programs are aimed at meeting the academic, personal and professional development needs of student athletes.

For instance, the UCLA Academic & Student Services Office (AS2) and its S.U.C.C.E.S.S. Program is a diverse program with a wide variety of objectives. They are focused on easing the stress of a student athletes that have both professional and academic goals. They recognize and celebrate student athletic successes. They provide opportunities for the development of leadership and mastery. They strive to create and support an environment that harnesses intellectual discipline, creativity, problem solving, independence, and responsibility. Their mission is to provide an interactive learning environment that emphasizes life-long learning habits, goal setting, teamwork, leadership and character. Continue reading

Support Is Available for Los Angeles Parents of Autistic Children

Autistic Children | LoveParentingLA.comAutism, known clinically as Autism Spectrum Disorder, is a challenging disorder to manage in children. The following are tips, perhaps reminders, when the daunting task of parenting becomes overwhelming.

  1. Get involved in a community of professionals and other parents of autistic children. For instance, the Autism Society of Los Angeles has a wide community of families and individuals who have been affected by autism. The support you receive from other parents who know and understand the small and large challenges of raising an autistic child can be deeply nourishing. The frustrations you experience might not feel as overwhelming when you are know that you are not alone in them. Also, talking with professionals at the Autism Society can provide you with information that can further your education on Autism including any recent advancements in treating this disorder.

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Parents Preventing Substance Abuse in Los Angeles Children

Substance Abuse | LoveParentingLA.comEven though the average age of beginning drug use is around 14 year old, talking to your child about drugs can begin as early as 6 or 7. Even during this young age, there are teachable moments to encourage your child’s avoidance of substance use later in life.

For instance, if you see a billboard or television commercial highlighting the use of cigarettes, a parent might talk with their child about smoking, nicotine addiction, and what smoking does to a person’s body. This might lead into a discussion about other drugs and how they can potentially cause harm. Parents can keep the tone of these discussions calm, using terms their child can understand. As parents and children are spending time in various parts of Los Angeles, they might witness people drinking or smoking, which can also be points for discussion. Parents should be specific about the effects of the drugs, including how they make a person feel, the risk of overdose, and the other long-term damage they can cause.

Sadly, according to a 2009 federal survey, one in 10 children ages 12 to 17 use illicit drugs on a regular basis. However, according to Dr. Joseph Lee, Medical Director of the Hazelden Center for Youth and Family, an addiction treatment facility in Minneapolis, there are many simple steps that parents can take to prevent drug use in their children. In fact, these are simple and effective ways that parents help their children avoid the pitfalls of alcohol and drug use later in life: Continue reading

Parents Preventing Substance Abuse in Los Angeles Children

Substance Abuse in LA | LoveParentingLA.comEven though the average age of beginning drug use is around 14 year old, talking to your child about drugs can begin as early as 6 or 7. Even during this young age, there are teachable moments to encourage your child’s avoidance of substance use later in life.

For instance, if you see a billboard or television commercial highlighting the use of cigarettes, a parent might talk with their child about smoking, nicotine addiction, and what smoking does to a person’s body. This might lead into a discussion about other drugs and how they can potentially cause harm. Parents can keep the tone of these discussions calm, using terms their child can understand. As parents and children are spending time in various parts of Los Angeles, they might witness people drinking or smoking, which can also be points for discussion. Parents should be specific about the effects of the drugs, including how they make a person feel, the risk of overdose, and the other long-term damage they can cause.

Sadly, according to a 2009 federal survey, one in 10 children ages 12 to 17 use illicit drugs on a regular basis. However, according to Dr. Joseph Lee, Medical Director of the Hazelden Center for Youth and Family, an addiction treatment facility in Minneapolis, there are many simple steps that parents can take to prevent drug use in their children. In fact, these are simple and effective ways that parents help their children avoid the pitfalls of alcohol and drug use later in life:

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Grieving the Loss of Your Child in Los Angeles

Grieving | LoveParentingLA.comIf you’re a parent and you’ve lost a child to suicide or injury, you’re likely in need of support.  There’s no question that there will be a range of emotions that you’re going to go through including guilt, depression, denial, and anger. For instance, one mother living in the suburbs of Los Angeles recently lost her daughter. Her co-workers were concerned because she returned to work a week after her daughter’s funeral with the same smile and cheery personality she had prior to her daughter’s death. It was as though nothing had happened. She gave no indication that she had just experienced a major loss.

However, if you’re aware of the stages of grieving or if you’ve experienced grief yourself, you might expect this sort of reaction. For this 38-year-old mother, she was exhibiting the classic first stage of denial. The psychiatrist, Elizabeth Kubler Ross, developed the stages of grieving described below. Initially, she formulated these stages as a result of observing adults suffering from a terminal illness. Later, she found that her theory also applied to anyone who has experienced a major loss, such as a death of a loved one, loss of a job or income, divorce, drug addiction, incarceration, or other losses, even minor ones. Continue reading

How Parents Can Make Los Angeles Safer For Their Children

Bullying | LoveParentingLA.comWhen it comes to parenting, large cities will come with pros and cons to raising a family in one. For instance, parents will have many rich opportunities to introduce to their children the various cultures that a large city has to offer. At the same time, diversity can bring discrimination and conflict. The wide range of ethnic groups that live in large cities can become problematic for children in public schools.

Cadre (Community Assess Development Redefining Education), a small nonprofit in downtown Los Angeles, has recruited the help of parents so that conflicts and discrimination among students of various ethnicities do not get in the way of their learning. Their mission is to improve the experience of students attending school as well as relationships within the community.  Working specifically in South Los Angeles, their vision for public schools in that region involves the following for LA Parents: Continue reading

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