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Parents: Provide Consistent and Loving Care

Loving Care | LoveParentingLA.comAlright, perhaps it’s obvious. Most parents want to provide consistent and loving care to their children. However, this article is meant to give you some of the psychological and emotional background on why it’s necessary for children to consistently feel loved and provided for.

In the last 40 years, there has been significant attention given to the early years of an individual’s life, noting that the type of attachment that an infant has with his or her primary caregiver will have a significant effect on later life.

In the 1960’s, psychiatrist John Bowlby developed the attachment theory based on his study of the difficulties that homeless and orphaned children experience. The theory’s main premise is that an infant must develop a strong bond with at least one primary caregiver in order to appropriately develop socially and emotionally. In order for this bond to become secure between infant and caregiver, the following must happen: Continue reading

The Love of Learning: Choices for your Children’s Education in Los Angeles

Homeschooling | LoveParentingLA.comIn the past there was no question that you’d send your children to the nearest public school for his or her education. However, that is becoming less of an immediate choice, and instead, parents have more and more options for educating their children, including alternative schools and homeschooling.

In Los Angeles today, there are literally hundreds of options available to parents. There are public, private, and charter schools. There are small independent schools and online schools. And there is always the homeschooling option too. With all of these options, it might be hard to know which one is right for your family and for your child in particular. Continue reading

The Best Parenting Blogs of Los Angeles

Parenting Blogs | LoveParentingLA.comWe all need support when it comes to parenting. And if it’s not support, it’s a place to vent, to express celebrations or get energized when faced with challenge! And what better to find a community of parents with similar passions than in Los Angeles.

It should also be noted that parents need outside help. Although they are the strong foundation for their children, it’s important that they get the help they need especially when they need it. For instance, Laurence Steinberg, psychologist at Temple University found this to be true in his 1994 study. That year, he studied 200 families and explored how parents managed the great transition of their child entering puberty. He found that 40% of parents experienced a decline in their mental health once their first child entered puberty. Parents reported feeling low self-worth, a decline in libido, and increase in physical symptoms due to stress. Continue reading

How to Lighten Family Stress When It’s High

Sometimes, families feel the stress of everyday life building and building. Parents, you’re working a lot; you’re trying to find the time to spend with your children and spouse. Children and teens, you’ve got responsibilities too and at the same time you might be feeling your needs for attention, love, and care from your parents. When emotional needs are being met and when the demands of everyday life are weighing on the family mood, it might be necessary to take a break from everything. It could be time to lighten the family stress and try out the following suggestions. Continue reading

Parenting Your Children with Loose or Tight Reins

When to Worry | LoveParentingLA.comAs a parent, it might time to find the right parenting balance. However, using intuition and gut instinct often leads to finding that balance. Mike Linderman, author of The Teen Whisperer: How to Break Through the Silence and Secrecy of TeenageLife, wrote, “Parents’ gut instincts are right on the money.” Likely, you’ve been with your child for his or her entire life, and the bond you have with your child can facilitate finding the right amount of involvement.

Lisa Boesky, a child and adolescent psychologist from San Diego and author of the book, When to Worry, says of parents: “Either they’re too strict, which brings about more rebellion, or they’re too hands-off, and the child gets into trouble because of lack of supervision.” She continues to say that ideally parents need to find the balance between the two in order to monitor and supervise their child’s life without being overly involved. Continue reading

Parenting Autistic Children: How To Explain Autism to Your Autistic Child

Autism | LoveParentingLA.comIt could be the hardest thing a parent of an autistic child has to do. There might be a moment of clarity when your child can really see who he or she is and wonder what’s going on. Your child or teen might ask, “Mommy, is there something wrong with me?” And how you respond to that child could have an effect on his or her self-esteem, your relationship, or his or her emotional well-being.

Depending on your child’s intellectual abilities, he or she may not even understand what autism is. Even educated adults can’t fully define autism. However, the approach to answering that question is important. You might find, for instance, your child might react or act out aggressively or appear sullen. Continue reading

Four Styles of Parenting and How They Affect Your Children

There are a wide variety of parenting styles that adults can implement when raising their children. Most often, men and women don’t peruse the various forms of parenting styles; many simply do what’s right and act fairly whenever they can. However, there are four common styles of parenting and they each have a different influence on a child’s life.

Technically, a parenting style is a psychological construct representing strategies that parents use when raising their children. And the amount of parenting styles, tactics, theories, and parental investment can be overwhelming for a new parent learning how to walk the parenting journey well. Continue reading

Parents: Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles Ranked Best By U.S. News

As a parent, it’s the last thing you want to think about. Because if you’re taking your child to the emergency room, then often something is wrong. Whether it’s a psychological illness or a gastrointestinal disorder or a skin disorder, going to the hospital can be a stressful and even frightening experience.

Each year, there are approximately 25.5 million children under the age of 18 who are taken to the emergency room. Though these numbers can be frightening, hospitals are intended to provide intense, but brief care so that your child or teen can go home with you, as soon as possible.

Whether it’s a musculoskeletal disorder, an endocrine disorder, or even cancer, hospitals are meant to be a safe place to heal. Despite this, hospitalizations for children are frequently an unpleasant experience. However, it is a place that provides the kind of intense care necessary for medical stability and treatment of physical disorders.

Hopefully, you’re not one of many parents that may need to bring their child to the emergency room. But if you are, you can trust Los Angeles’ Children’s Hospital. It was recently named one of the top ten children’s hospitals in the country according to U.S. News. In fact, the Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles has been ranked in the top ten list every year since it was established in 2009. This is a record that no other children’s medical facility in California can claim.

Other children’s hospitals in the list include Boston Children’s Hospital, Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center, Texas Children’s Hospital, Houston, Children’s Hospital Colorado, Aurora, and Nationwide Children’s Hospital, among others.

To acquire the top ten list for 2014-2015, U.S. News surveyed 183 pediatric centers. Clinical data was gathered from ten specialties and from 150 pediatric specialists in each of those specialties where they might send their sickest child. Eighty-one hospitals were ranked in at least one specialty while only ten hospitals were named as being a part of the Honor Roll. These hospitals had high scores in at least three specialties. Los Angeles’ Children’s Hospital ranked number 5 on the honor roll with high scores in six of its specialties.

So, although, you may have to take your child to the hospital for one reason or another, at least you know that you can trust the hospital in Los Angeles. At least you know that Los Angeles’ Children’s Hospital has been recognized across the country.

Enforcing and Breaking the Consistency is Key Rule

Well, parents, you’ve probably read all the parenting books, listened to the parenting experts, and implemented all the parenting tips, and if so, you’ve probably heard the phrase consistency is key. But there’s a way to enforce consistency with inconsistency.

That is, it’s important to be flexible, bendable, and allow for growth. It’s true that in order to establish a firm boundary at home, you’ve got to stay consistent in the messages you send to your children. You’ve got to stay steady in the way that you parent as well as keep consistent with your partner in parenting – your spouse.

So, it might feel like staying consistent means holding on to every rule you establish in your home – such as, no snacking after dinner, ever. No television before school, each and every weekday. No wavering from your spouse’s communication to the kids. Consistency might feel like trying to stay on track with each and every thing you say to your children.

But if you’re holding on to being consistent tightly, you might find that you’re failing at it time and again (and perhaps beating yourself up for it). Actually, it might be impossible to enforce every single law you lay down at home. For instance, perhaps you have a rule that says no eating in the bedrooms, but then one night you get a new television in your bedroom and the family decides to eat dinner in there while you watch a movie together. This doesn’t mean that you’ve broken the rule; it might instead mean that breaking the rules is fun once in awhile and that change is healthy.

So perhaps it’s time to let it go. Or at the very least, dig into a deeper meaning of the age-old parenting advice, consistency is key. For instance, consistency is needed in some cases. On subjects you know you’re not going to budge on, like drugs, consistency can be a very clear message to your children about what you’re willing to tolerate. And in fact, the deeper meaning to this rule is not so much that you stick to the laws and parent with an iron fist. Instead, consistency is that you say what you mean and you mean what you say.

In fact, it’s important that rules change as children do. As they develop and grow, different rules are going to apply. But what’s important in staying consistent is that children know what is expected of them. Having clear boundaries, clear expectations, and a clear message of what you’re wiling to tolerate is healthy for the psychological development of children. Staying consistent is being consistent in your boundaries and expectations. It’s important to have fun and break the rules every once in awhile.

When you’re consistent but flexible, perhaps you and your family will find new rules to live by, like Choose Love, Be Kind, and Have Fun.

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