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Month: July 2014

Parenting Your Children with Loose or Tight Reins

When to Worry | LoveParentingLA.comAs a parent, it might time to find the right parenting balance. However, using intuition and gut instinct often leads to finding that balance. Mike Linderman, author of The Teen Whisperer: How to Break Through the Silence and Secrecy of TeenageLife, wrote, “Parents’ gut instincts are right on the money.” Likely, you’ve been with your child for his or her entire life, and the bond you have with your child can facilitate finding the right amount of involvement.

Lisa Boesky, a child and adolescent psychologist from San Diego and author of the book, When to Worry, says of parents: “Either they’re too strict, which brings about more rebellion, or they’re too hands-off, and the child gets into trouble because of lack of supervision.” She continues to say that ideally parents need to find the balance between the two in order to monitor and supervise their child’s life without being overly involved. Continue reading

Parenting Autistic Children: How To Explain Autism to Your Autistic Child

Autism | LoveParentingLA.comIt could be the hardest thing a parent of an autistic child has to do. There might be a moment of clarity when your child can really see who he or she is and wonder what’s going on. Your child or teen might ask, “Mommy, is there something wrong with me?” And how you respond to that child could have an effect on his or her self-esteem, your relationship, or his or her emotional well-being.

Depending on your child’s intellectual abilities, he or she may not even understand what autism is. Even educated adults can’t fully define autism. However, the approach to answering that question is important. You might find, for instance, your child might react or act out aggressively or appear sullen. Continue reading

Four Styles of Parenting and How They Affect Your Children

There are a wide variety of parenting styles that adults can implement when raising their children. Most often, men and women don’t peruse the various forms of parenting styles; many simply do what’s right and act fairly whenever they can. However, there are four common styles of parenting and they each have a different influence on a child’s life.

Technically, a parenting style is a psychological construct representing strategies that parents use when raising their children. And the amount of parenting styles, tactics, theories, and parental investment can be overwhelming for a new parent learning how to walk the parenting journey well. Continue reading

Parents: Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles Ranked Best By U.S. News

As a parent, it’s the last thing you want to think about. Because if you’re taking your child to the emergency room, then often something is wrong. Whether it’s a psychological illness or a gastrointestinal disorder or a skin disorder, going to the hospital can be a stressful and even frightening experience.

Each year, there are approximately 25.5 million children under the age of 18 who are taken to the emergency room. Though these numbers can be frightening, hospitals are intended to provide intense, but brief care so that your child or teen can go home with you, as soon as possible.

Whether it’s a musculoskeletal disorder, an endocrine disorder, or even cancer, hospitals are meant to be a safe place to heal. Despite this, hospitalizations for children are frequently an unpleasant experience. However, it is a place that provides the kind of intense care necessary for medical stability and treatment of physical disorders.

Hopefully, you’re not one of many parents that may need to bring their child to the emergency room. But if you are, you can trust Los Angeles’ Children’s Hospital. It was recently named one of the top ten children’s hospitals in the country according to U.S. News. In fact, the Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles has been ranked in the top ten list every year since it was established in 2009. This is a record that no other children’s medical facility in California can claim.

Other children’s hospitals in the list include Boston Children’s Hospital, Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center, Texas Children’s Hospital, Houston, Children’s Hospital Colorado, Aurora, and Nationwide Children’s Hospital, among others.

To acquire the top ten list for 2014-2015, U.S. News surveyed 183 pediatric centers. Clinical data was gathered from ten specialties and from 150 pediatric specialists in each of those specialties where they might send their sickest child. Eighty-one hospitals were ranked in at least one specialty while only ten hospitals were named as being a part of the Honor Roll. These hospitals had high scores in at least three specialties. Los Angeles’ Children’s Hospital ranked number 5 on the honor roll with high scores in six of its specialties.

So, although, you may have to take your child to the hospital for one reason or another, at least you know that you can trust the hospital in Los Angeles. At least you know that Los Angeles’ Children’s Hospital has been recognized across the country.

Enforcing and Breaking the Consistency is Key Rule

Well, parents, you’ve probably read all the parenting books, listened to the parenting experts, and implemented all the parenting tips, and if so, you’ve probably heard the phrase consistency is key. But there’s a way to enforce consistency with inconsistency.

That is, it’s important to be flexible, bendable, and allow for growth. It’s true that in order to establish a firm boundary at home, you’ve got to stay consistent in the messages you send to your children. You’ve got to stay steady in the way that you parent as well as keep consistent with your partner in parenting – your spouse.

So, it might feel like staying consistent means holding on to every rule you establish in your home – such as, no snacking after dinner, ever. No television before school, each and every weekday. No wavering from your spouse’s communication to the kids. Consistency might feel like trying to stay on track with each and every thing you say to your children.

But if you’re holding on to being consistent tightly, you might find that you’re failing at it time and again (and perhaps beating yourself up for it). Actually, it might be impossible to enforce every single law you lay down at home. For instance, perhaps you have a rule that says no eating in the bedrooms, but then one night you get a new television in your bedroom and the family decides to eat dinner in there while you watch a movie together. This doesn’t mean that you’ve broken the rule; it might instead mean that breaking the rules is fun once in awhile and that change is healthy.

So perhaps it’s time to let it go. Or at the very least, dig into a deeper meaning of the age-old parenting advice, consistency is key. For instance, consistency is needed in some cases. On subjects you know you’re not going to budge on, like drugs, consistency can be a very clear message to your children about what you’re willing to tolerate. And in fact, the deeper meaning to this rule is not so much that you stick to the laws and parent with an iron fist. Instead, consistency is that you say what you mean and you mean what you say.

In fact, it’s important that rules change as children do. As they develop and grow, different rules are going to apply. But what’s important in staying consistent is that children know what is expected of them. Having clear boundaries, clear expectations, and a clear message of what you’re wiling to tolerate is healthy for the psychological development of children. Staying consistent is being consistent in your boundaries and expectations. It’s important to have fun and break the rules every once in awhile.

When you’re consistent but flexible, perhaps you and your family will find new rules to live by, like Choose Love, Be Kind, and Have Fun.

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